Saturday, August 14, 2010

Don't Worry, Be Happy. It's all out of your control anyway.

I think that the most interesting aspect of having twins is it makes you realize there are many things you have no control over.  So much of their personalities and traits are hard-wired.  Unless you have two kids at the exact same time, you can't see how each has developed into their own person without any help from you.

You can't wonder what you did right with the first child that you must have forgotten to do with the second.  You can't pat yourself on the back for fixing your mistakes with your second that you made with the first (even though you can't really recall what you did wrong).  You actually have proof that you treated each child exactly the same, fed them the same food, put them to sleep using an identical method, etc.  Even though all this is the same, at the end of the day they are completely different people.   I have recently discovered, for example, that I have no control over the development of picky eating (Darn!). 

So, I say throw out the books!  Forget the professional advice!  Just love and kiss them and see who they become.

Sunday, August 8, 2010

So much has changed...

It has been a really long time since I made a post.  So much has changed. 

The biggest news is that the boys now sleep in separate cribs.  I never thought it would happen.  They always kept to their own sides and never woke each other.  Then one day I noticed that Carter would not go down as easily for a nap.  Then it happened again, and again - lots of crying before finally falling asleep.  After a few days, it was so bad that I finally went back into our room.  Gerrit was sound asleep tucked into his corner of the crib.  Carter was on the other side of the crib screaming his head off.  He looked at me, then at Gerrit, then back at me as if to say, "get him out of here!"  The next day I set up a pack and play (our other crib was never fully assembled) and he slept like a dream.

The boys also no longer nurse together.  At night I noticed that they were only feeding for a minute or two before stopping.  That would have been the greatest weaning opportunity if the pediatrician had not just informed me that my boys were too small and needed to put on additional weight.  So, one night I fed them separately, and they each ate for 10 minutes again. 

This change in nursing caused Gerrit to have to wait for Carter to finish before he could nurse.  The result?  He would fall back asleep while waiting - and thus started sleeping through the night.  This happily continued for almost two months.  Only, in the last month we have been dealing with molars and other teething issues, and are thus up again in the night.

All this change for the boys is leading to some change for us as well.  We are finally preparing to move the boys into their own room.  Now that we know they can sleep through the night, we are ready to get our privacy back. 

It is so strange to look back at pictures and realize how much our lives are changing.  Some things get easier (like the boys being able to climb into their high chairs all by themselves), and some get harder (like the boys being able to climb onto table tops all by themselves).  Overall though, it gets better every day.